Getting Married is Not My Goal! *Single at 40 Series!

In approximately 7 months, I will be 40 years old, and while I am thoroughly enjoying this last year in my 30s, I can't help but self reflect. Questions like, have I reached my goals, am I where I thought I'd be, and what did I expect to be different are looming my mind.

The truth is, I am pretty at peace with where I am. God has been good to me and my family, so I won't complain. However, I admit I didn't think I'd be 40 and single.

Never once did I think I'd be unmarried at the age of forty; but I also realize, that I'm okay with it. You see it was just last week that I decided getting married was no longer a goal of mine.

Now before you get all shocked and go to spilling out quotes that I have preached, like the necessity for healthy marriages in our community, I need you to hear me out.

I repeat, getting married is no longer my goal. You see a lot of times, when a goal is met, people become lax and move on to something else, allowing that thing to become the focus of their attentions and efforts. Which is one reason marriages end in divorce. People are so set on the wedding and the getting married part, that they forget the "being married" part that comes afterwards.

I don't want that. My goal is to have a beautiful healthy relationship, inclusive of marriage. The goal is to actually do what's necessary to keep the relationship nurtured. To be with someone who gets up everyday with the desire to be with me and I with him. I want to do life with a man who is true to himself, and will be true to the relationship. That level of intensity and commitment starts long before the "will you marry me" happens, and doesn't stop at "I Do!"

So I won't rush things. I will allow life to happen, work on me, and continue to build. Cause when it's my time, it's my time! ❤️